more on everyone being scared

I was just thinking about my children.... I pray, pray, pray that they are strong as they grow up and that this doesn't screw them up.  I was thinking how much I feel like escaping now.  I wonder about how hard it is for them to sleep at night.  I wonder if one of them or all of them will turn to drugs or alcohol to make it "easier" when they are alone at night and can't sleep... that scares me too.  I don't understand why God had to let this happen.  I just don't see how any good can come from such a tragedy.  We've all lost so much and I just look at all that can go wrong from here.... How can that be part of a plan?